And the relationship, like most teenage relationships, folded. At the time of her Tumblr relationship, Jordan was just 18 years old, and struggling to come to terms with her sexuality, as well as her mental illness. After a period of time, the two exchanged phone numbers. At the time, Jessica was living in a small city, twenty minutes away from Boston. I am what I am. And while he wasn't really looking for romance, he found it with a reblog. I wasn't an ass man before that day.
They started alone on the Internet, crafted a date out of a text, made a wedding out of a closet. Jordan signed up to find help. It was as if it had been sent down from the heavens to grace my presence. She started following her, and while nothing — quite seriously nothing — sounds less romantic than tort law, the two immediately formed an intimate connection. I wasn't looking for love.
Notably, when we look at terms associated with sexuality and identity, we see less mainstream language being used. I had to stop everything and just appreciate it. They had a side poetry blog as well. But even though they couldn't vocalize some of their feelings, or precisely articulate their needs and identities, the connection felt real. While first dates are historically painful, the intimacy they spent months building over Tumblr exploded in real life. Her relationship became a refuge.
Jessica reached out through Tumblr, then learned them with love. I can say it had a profound impact on my life. While she grew up in an area that was otherwise queer-friendly, Tumblr allowed her to keep her struggles private and safe. Four years later, the couple remains married. It will be a memory that never leaves my mind. Twitter relies on 140-character soundbites.
While sites like OkCupid require users to list their sexual preference and gender identity, Tumblr let youth use and invent their own descriptors. The relationship blossomed because Jordan felt safe. But Tumblr offers more than just secrecy. Topics: , , , , ,. I think I messaged them first. Tumblr sometimes becomes the easiest way to reach out. One survey found that of gay couples met their partner online in the past couple years, compared to 22% of heterosexual couples.
The social platform responsible for cat memes and horrifying Disney Princess art has become, in many ways, an informal dating site for queer and trans youth. There's a sense of agency and control there that I think I really wanted at the time. Facebook requires people to use their real identities. Now in his twenties, the words come easier: transsexual, non-binary, pansexual. Sure, he knew some of the things he liked — Dr. Teachers might teach you how to put a state-sponsored condom on a store-bought cucumber, but only a few will tell you what it means to be trans or how it feels to be gay.
We became friends, exchanged actual information and began messaging each other off anonymous. But living nine hours apart from each other, it took nearly half a year before they finally met in person. Jordan, once a queer teen who found love on Tumblr, told Mashable. See also: Coming out and gay marriage may dominate the national conversation, but for many queer and trans youth, those issues can feel secondary, even cosmetic. Every guy in a 50-yard radius just stood there staring.
Hear the stories for yourself. Tumblr — more visual than Twitter, more private than Facebook, less horrible than Reddit — lets youth create new screennames, craft new identities. By scrolling through pictures, or skimming reblogs, users can discover what desire and identity mean to them. . They weren't handed to him on a silver platter. The two never met in person. He was young and lived in a small city.